Expecting parents are faced with a lot of important decisions before their baby is born. These include the basics, such as what to name the baby, which Pediatrician to go to, breastfeeding vs. formula feeding, etc. And more and more, they are having to consider the issue of whether or not to bank their baby's umbilical cord blood.
From ads in parenting magazines, direct mailings, and flyers in their obstetrician's office, expecting parents are repeatedly told of their 'once-in-a-lifetime chance' to save their baby's umbilical cord blood for possible use later to save his life.
Since it doesn't hurt to take a baby's umbilical cord blood and it would in fact be discarded anyway, you wouldn't think that there would be much of an issue with cord blood banking. What parent wouldn't want to do everything that they could to make sure that their baby grows up to be healthy?
But the issue isn't really with cord blood banking, which every parent should likely try to do. The issue is more about banking blood in a for-profit private cord blood bank for a family's own use. As an alternative, parents can donate their baby's umbilical cord blood in a public bank for free.
Background Of Baby Cord Blood Banking
Umbilical cord blood stem cells can be used in transplants to treat a variety of pediatric disorders including leukemia, sickle cell disease, and metabolic disorders. Patients who need a cord blood transplant can currently try to find a match with a sibling or from an unrelated person. An autologous (self) transplant can also be done if a child's umbilical cord blood has been stored in a private cord blood bank, although you wouldn't do that for conditions like leukemia because of the genetic risk of the leukemia being in the cord blood too.
Pros Of Baby Cord Blood Banking
Parents who do bank their baby's umbilical cord blood privately often find the cost acceptable and feel that it is a kind or 'insurance' and a 'good investment' in case their child needs it.
Cord blood banking for their own use can be a good idea for families that have a child 'suffering from leukemia, lymphoma, other cancers, sickle cell disease, thalassemia or other transplant-treatable diseases', in which case they can donate and store their baby's cord blood for free in the Children's Hospital Oakland Research Institute Sibling Donor Cord Blood Program. It may also be a good idea if another family member has a condition that can be treated with a bone marrow transplant.
Cons Of Baby Cord Blood Banking
Although money shouldn't be a factor when it comes to saving a child's life, one of the biggest arguments against private cord blood banking is that it is just too expensive for many families. In addition to a large initial processing and banking fee, you then have to pay an annual storage fee. First-year fees can range from $595 to $1,835, depending on which private bank you choose. Annual storage fees are usually about $95.
That American Academy of Pediatrics sums up most of the cons against private cord banking nicely in their subject review of cord blood banking, in which they state that 'Families may be vulnerable to emotional marketing at the time of birth of a child and may look to their physicians for advice. No accurate estimates exist of the likelihood of children to need their own stored cells. The range of available estimates is from 1:1000 to 1:200,000. Empirical evidence that children will need their own cord blood for future use is lacking. There also is no evidence of the safety or effectiveness of autologous cord blood transplantation for the treatment of malignant neoplasms. For these reasons, it is difficult to recommend that parents store their children's cord blood for future use.'
Also keep in mind that the AAP again, in a 2007 policy statement on cord blood banking titled Cord Blood Banking for Potential Future Transplantation, stated that 'private storage of cord blood as "biological insurance" should be discouraged.'
Also, if your child does get one of the conditions that an umbilical cord transplant is supposed to cure or treat, if you don't store your child's cord blood, that doesn't mean that no treatments will be available to him. In addition to more traditional treatments and bone marrow transplants, you may be able to find a cord blood match in a public cord blood bank, from which most cord blood transplants are currently being done.
Where it Stands Of Baby Cord Blood Banking
In addition to non-profit cord blood banks and for-profit cord blood banks, like Viacord and Cord Blood Registry, parents are increasingly having more options to donate their baby's umbilical cord blood or later need a cord blood transplant. The Cord Blood Stem Cell Act of 2005 will work to create a 'National Cord Blood Stem Cell Bank Network to prepare, store, and distribute human umbilical cord blood stem cells for the treatment of patients and to support peer-reviewed research using such cells.' The Cord Blood Stem Cell Act of 2005 has been introduced in both the House and Senate, although it has not yet passed. Still, money has already been set aside to fund an Institute of Medicine report on how best to implement the national network, so hopefully it will be set up quickly one the legislation passes.
Public or free cord blood banks are already available as part of the National Marrow Donor Program (NMDP) Network in 12 major cities if you are interested in donating your baby's umbilical cord blood so that it is available to any child that needs a transplant. The AAP strongly encourages parents to donate their baby's cord blood to a public cord blood bank.
And of course, if you think the cost is acceptable and you would feel comforted or reassured if your baby's umbilical cord blood is available if needed, then you can always choose to go with a private cord blood bank.
December 24, 2008
December 23, 2008
How to Remove Root Cause of Failure from your Children’s Life and Help Them Achieve Maximum Success
While interacting with many parents, and observing students during their education and after finishing their education, we have noted this curious fact:
Many children perform better in just one or two areas of life but struggle in other areas.
For example ( * names changed)—
Joe* was a brilliant student, scoring top grades in school and colleges. But now after finishing his education, he is doing an ordinary job. Why? Because he lacks ‘people skill.’ He is poor at interacting with people during interviews or in office. This cost him many good opportunities to get ahead in his career.
Clara* is enjoying successful career with a high paying job. Yet, she isn’t much happy. Because her personal life is in shambles, due to strained relationship with her family members.
Dilip* has everything going for him with a great job and lot of wealth. But he lacks one important thing—good health.
Revan* is quite an intelligent boy with active interest in many hobbies. But he is poor in studies.
Why children succeed in one area of life but struggle in another? The main reason is...
Lack of Right Training This is the root cause of all struggles and failures in children’s life. Usually, parents and teachers pay more attention towards studies and career. But pay less attention to over-all development of children. This creates imbalance in children’s life. They do not develop sufficient skills or knowledge to achieve success in all areas of life. After all, life is complex. And children have to play many roles in life—the role of student, husband/wife, parent, worker/employer, citizen and so on. Unless you give right training to your children, they will not be able to play their various roles in life properly. As a result, your children might have to struggle in one or other areas of life continuously. But what can you do? What kind of right training should you give to your children? Right training means to teach your children:
The important Life Skills and Success Skills which are essential to perform better in all areas of life.
These skills help in over-all development of your children and help them to achieve maximum success and enjoy complete happiness in life. But unfortunately, most of the important Life Skills and Success Skills are missing from our school and college books. As our education system pays more attention to academic skills and less towards other life enhancing skills. Which means, it is left to parents and children to find ways to develop the important Life Skills and Success Skills on their own. But what are these skills which your children should develop to live better life and
enjoy maximum success? Our years of observation and research indicates that children should be trained to develop these 8 main skills:
1. Self-Managing Skills: skills or ability to manage one’s thought, develop strong confidence and self-image, recognize one’s own power, strength and qualities.
2. Mind Control Skills: to get maximum power and performance from Brain.
3. Smart Study Skills: to learn better and faster, excel in exams easily. 4. Sharp Mental Skills: like concentration, observation skill, people skill,
and reasoning skill. 5. Career Choosing Skills: to choose a career that suits your children best
and provides adequate earning to live a better life. 6. Personality Development Skills: to develop attractive personality which
helps to get co-operation and help from other people easily. And also to maintain good relationships with others.
7. Creative Skills: to think creatively, come up with new ideas and solutions. This is a most needed skill today which helps to beat competition and achieve big success in career or business.
8. Health Skills: to develop and maintain good mental and physical health.
Now, just imagine what your children can achieve when they develop all the above skills? They will simply become unbeatable! Because the above skills help to bring total self-improvement in your children. They transform your children into confident and well-behaved human beings. Help them develop strength to beat tough competition or failure. Give them the POWER to achieve big success easily and live a better life! So pay attention to above important skills. And help your children develop them one by one. If you want help or guidance in this task, you can use our Complete
Self-Development program for students called Success MindwareTM. Yes. When we realized the problem faced by children, we decided to create a solution for it.
exercises to help your children develop all important Success Skills and Life Skills.
Have Loads Of Patience
Parenting is the most rewarding and fulfilling role we ever play in our life. But at times, it can also be very frustrating, irritating and exhausting! Because children have their own minds and moods. Their own likes and dislikes.
To make them do what you want, to make them listen to your good suggestions and advice, you need to use lot of tricks and praises. Plus loads of patience :)
All this is not easy. But Your Love for your children will give you the power to see through the end. And make anything possible.
Many children perform better in just one or two areas of life but struggle in other areas.
For example ( * names changed)—
Joe* was a brilliant student, scoring top grades in school and colleges. But now after finishing his education, he is doing an ordinary job. Why? Because he lacks ‘people skill.’ He is poor at interacting with people during interviews or in office. This cost him many good opportunities to get ahead in his career.
Clara* is enjoying successful career with a high paying job. Yet, she isn’t much happy. Because her personal life is in shambles, due to strained relationship with her family members.
Dilip* has everything going for him with a great job and lot of wealth. But he lacks one important thing—good health.
Revan* is quite an intelligent boy with active interest in many hobbies. But he is poor in studies.
Why children succeed in one area of life but struggle in another? The main reason is...
Lack of Right Training This is the root cause of all struggles and failures in children’s life. Usually, parents and teachers pay more attention towards studies and career. But pay less attention to over-all development of children. This creates imbalance in children’s life. They do not develop sufficient skills or knowledge to achieve success in all areas of life. After all, life is complex. And children have to play many roles in life—the role of student, husband/wife, parent, worker/employer, citizen and so on. Unless you give right training to your children, they will not be able to play their various roles in life properly. As a result, your children might have to struggle in one or other areas of life continuously. But what can you do? What kind of right training should you give to your children? Right training means to teach your children:
The important Life Skills and Success Skills which are essential to perform better in all areas of life.
These skills help in over-all development of your children and help them to achieve maximum success and enjoy complete happiness in life. But unfortunately, most of the important Life Skills and Success Skills are missing from our school and college books. As our education system pays more attention to academic skills and less towards other life enhancing skills. Which means, it is left to parents and children to find ways to develop the important Life Skills and Success Skills on their own. But what are these skills which your children should develop to live better life and
enjoy maximum success? Our years of observation and research indicates that children should be trained to develop these 8 main skills:
1. Self-Managing Skills: skills or ability to manage one’s thought, develop strong confidence and self-image, recognize one’s own power, strength and qualities.
2. Mind Control Skills: to get maximum power and performance from Brain.
3. Smart Study Skills: to learn better and faster, excel in exams easily. 4. Sharp Mental Skills: like concentration, observation skill, people skill,
and reasoning skill. 5. Career Choosing Skills: to choose a career that suits your children best
and provides adequate earning to live a better life. 6. Personality Development Skills: to develop attractive personality which
helps to get co-operation and help from other people easily. And also to maintain good relationships with others.
7. Creative Skills: to think creatively, come up with new ideas and solutions. This is a most needed skill today which helps to beat competition and achieve big success in career or business.
8. Health Skills: to develop and maintain good mental and physical health.
Now, just imagine what your children can achieve when they develop all the above skills? They will simply become unbeatable! Because the above skills help to bring total self-improvement in your children. They transform your children into confident and well-behaved human beings. Help them develop strength to beat tough competition or failure. Give them the POWER to achieve big success easily and live a better life! So pay attention to above important skills. And help your children develop them one by one. If you want help or guidance in this task, you can use our Complete
Self-Development program for students called Success MindwareTM. Yes. When we realized the problem faced by children, we decided to create a solution for it.
exercises to help your children develop all important Success Skills and Life Skills.
Have Loads Of Patience
Parenting is the most rewarding and fulfilling role we ever play in our life. But at times, it can also be very frustrating, irritating and exhausting! Because children have their own minds and moods. Their own likes and dislikes.
To make them do what you want, to make them listen to your good suggestions and advice, you need to use lot of tricks and praises. Plus loads of patience :)
All this is not easy. But Your Love for your children will give you the power to see through the end. And make anything possible.
How to Protect Your Children From Depression, Stress and Suicide
In recent years, our world has changed a lot. There is now more competition. More pressure. Children today have to study more and work harder to achieve success than what we did 20 years ago. All this inevitably creates stress and tension in children. As parents, you can do a lot to keep your children away from the harmful effects of stress. Here are 7 methods to protect your children from stress, depression and even suicide:
1. Never Compare With Others’ Performance
Do not tell your daughter, “You should get more marks than Reena.” Comparing your children’s performance with others can make situation worse. It creates tension and frustration in children. In fact, even comparison among siblings is not a good idea. It can harm their relations with each other.
Comparing with other children may also result in inferiority complex, jealousy and other related behavioral problems. Hence it should be avoided at all costs.
The best idea is to compare with their previous performance. Remind your children about their previous good performance. For example, “You had got A grade in English test last year. Do your best to get A grade this time too. You can do it!”
Encourage your children to set their own goals and do their best to achieve it.
2. Pay Attention To Efforts, not results
Praise your children for their study work, for their efforts, hard work, determination, persistence. Don’t give too much importance to marks or grades. Tina was quite a good student and would usually score well. But sometimes she would slip up and score less. During such time her father would give her good tongue lashing and her mother would stop speaking to her for 3-4 days.
Consequently she started suffering from stress and sometimes even falling sick, whenever exam or result time came. Children tend to become insecure if parents give importance only to marks or grades. Such children find it hard to face setbacks and failures. Hence the better way is to focus on your children’s actions, focus on your children’s efforts. Praising their efforts helps children to retain their confidence and to put more effort next time, to earn more praise. See that your children develop good study methods, attend class regularly, do homework on time, prepare for tests properly. These good study habits will increase your children’s chances of getting success, without putting undue pressure on them. If your children still come home with poor report card tell them, “Study more next time. Correct your mistakes.” Then your children will realize that if they suffer setbacks, all they have to do is work more harder. This will decrease the weight of tension and fear on their mind. Will make them feel more in control. This better feeling leads to better thinking. Better thinking leads to better actions. Better actions bring better results. Help your children to use this success-causingcycle more, and move forward. This way they can have full control on their progress and life.
3. Help your children realize the benefits and importance of exams
Most children don’t realize the value and benefits of exams. Exams give them feedback about their performance and knowledge. Help them to qualify for higher studies. Higher studies give better educational qualifications and provide more opportunities to develop successful career and live a better life. Explain these benefits of exams to your children. Then ask your children what kind of life they like to live? Answer will invariably be a “rich lifestyle!” Now connect exams with rich lifestyle. Tell them that by giving and passing exams, they can get more opportunities for getting admission into higher studies and establishing good career. Then exams will have a chance of being ‘friendly-things’ in your children’s mind! They will stop hating exams.
4. Different exams have different importance
Exams are important. Yes. But different exams have different degree of importance. Preschool or nursery exams are not High School Board Exam. At this young age, children should not be made to spend too much time on studies. In the same way, school exams are not college exams. Don’t push your children too much towards studies or they will rebel against it. And develop hatred towards studying.
5. Let your children know the Difference Between Right And Wrong
Prohibit your children from doing things that are harmful to them and others. This will keep your children out of trouble.
Instill good values in them. These will help children to resist negative influence of other people, and bad temptations too. Be their role model. As children learn more from what their parents do and less from what their parents ‘tell.’
6. Control Your Ambition
It is natural for you to want your children to succeed. But avoid over-ambition. Rohan was a brilliant Student. His parents had lot of expectation from him. They had one goal—that he should come 1st merit in High School Board Exam. Rohan also studied hard. But somewhere along the line, the pressure became too much for him. He began to fear whether he would really manage to come first. One day, his family found him unconscious in his room. He had tried to commit suicide. Timely medical help saved his life. Don’t expect too much from your children. Avoid running after, “My child should come first rank every year.” Encourage your children to study well, but let them set their own goals. It is good idea to keep this fact in mind—we can only provide best guidance, best education facilities, best training to our children. But how much they really learn, how much advantage they really take, is up to them. It is up to the level of interest they develop towards studying.
7. Dealing With Failure Most children fail in studies because of one or all of these:
• Lack of motivation—not knowing benefits of education
• Lack of brain-friendly learning methods
• Due to some unsolved problems—hearing, eyesight, etc. So help your children to get rid of these problems.
Never scold or criticize when your children bring poor report card to home. First help them to come out of the stressful thinking they are already experiencing—teacher’s accusing gaze, classmates’ degrading comments, fear of your scolding—all these things are already playing havoc in the young minds of your children.
You can say, “I know you’re not happy with the result, but smile, you can do much better than this.” It is time to give a big hug! Always remember, at this moment your children are alone in their pain, with no supporters.
No one likes to fail. But sometimes, things go terribly wrong, no matter how much we try. This is what happened with Mary and Joe.
Mary wanted to be an Engineer, but failed to clear the Entrance exam for it. She did not get admission in any of the engineering colleges. It was a blow to her dreams. Her parents were angry and sad.
Joe was a merit student and dreamt of becoming a doctor. Everyone was sure he would be among the top rankers in the 12th Board Exam. But he suffered from a serious accident just weeks before the exam and could not even attend the exam. He lost one year.
These two students failed to fulfill their dreams.
But failure is failure, only if we stop trying. Only if we give up. Where as, if we keep moving forward, failure loses its effect.
There are thousands of ways to achieve success. If one way doesn’t work, search for another way and go for it. Nobody can fail all the time. This is what the above two students did.
After few days of depression, Mary chose another career, that of law. And today she has a successful practicing lawyer, earning wealth and fame.
After recovering from the accident, Joe gave the exam and somehow managed to pass it. He selected commerce stream for graduation and later topped the Chartered Accountant exam and got a job in good company.
Now, would you call these two individuals as failures? Of course not.
They did not give up when they failed. They searched for alternative ways, started again and succeeded. Such people are not called Failures. They are called Fighters. Winners.
Teach your children to become fighters. Let your children set specific goals for themselves. Ask them to do their best to achieve it. If they fail, encourage them to start again with an alternative plan, with a new goal.
Then setback or failure will not defeat your children.
So support and love your children even if they fail . As results are not in their control. Encourage them to try harder next time.
As parents, we need to remember this fact: children need more love and support when they face setbacks. This helps them to recover fast and take sweet revenge on their failure!
Be a role model to your children
Children are strongly influenced by their parents’ behaviour and actions.
Our next-door neighbor is a very well mannered, polite lady. Her son has also picked up her polite manners.
One of our friends has thirst for acquiring knowledge and is interested in SelfProgramming methods. He often buys books and reads them during holidays and at weekends. His older daughter, aged 10, has picked up the habit of reading books too. Though his younger son has not yet shown any interest in opening the books, but he watches curiously as his father does self-programming exercises at home. Someday he too will be hooked!
Children rarely listen to what we say, but they are great copying machines. Hence
first you do what you expect your children to do. Then you will see greater improvement in them.
Let your children see you reading some good books (not magazines), making some light notes on the sides of the pages, solving through the day-to-day problems of life patiently, correcting the mistakes you make, etc. Then your children will copy you.
To help your children become successful, healthy and happy, you need to maximize your skill of positive parenting. After all, who can want the best for
your children, if not you?
1. Never Compare With Others’ Performance
Do not tell your daughter, “You should get more marks than Reena.” Comparing your children’s performance with others can make situation worse. It creates tension and frustration in children. In fact, even comparison among siblings is not a good idea. It can harm their relations with each other.
Comparing with other children may also result in inferiority complex, jealousy and other related behavioral problems. Hence it should be avoided at all costs.
The best idea is to compare with their previous performance. Remind your children about their previous good performance. For example, “You had got A grade in English test last year. Do your best to get A grade this time too. You can do it!”
Encourage your children to set their own goals and do their best to achieve it.
2. Pay Attention To Efforts, not results
Praise your children for their study work, for their efforts, hard work, determination, persistence. Don’t give too much importance to marks or grades. Tina was quite a good student and would usually score well. But sometimes she would slip up and score less. During such time her father would give her good tongue lashing and her mother would stop speaking to her for 3-4 days.
Consequently she started suffering from stress and sometimes even falling sick, whenever exam or result time came. Children tend to become insecure if parents give importance only to marks or grades. Such children find it hard to face setbacks and failures. Hence the better way is to focus on your children’s actions, focus on your children’s efforts. Praising their efforts helps children to retain their confidence and to put more effort next time, to earn more praise. See that your children develop good study methods, attend class regularly, do homework on time, prepare for tests properly. These good study habits will increase your children’s chances of getting success, without putting undue pressure on them. If your children still come home with poor report card tell them, “Study more next time. Correct your mistakes.” Then your children will realize that if they suffer setbacks, all they have to do is work more harder. This will decrease the weight of tension and fear on their mind. Will make them feel more in control. This better feeling leads to better thinking. Better thinking leads to better actions. Better actions bring better results. Help your children to use this success-causingcycle more, and move forward. This way they can have full control on their progress and life.
3. Help your children realize the benefits and importance of exams
Most children don’t realize the value and benefits of exams. Exams give them feedback about their performance and knowledge. Help them to qualify for higher studies. Higher studies give better educational qualifications and provide more opportunities to develop successful career and live a better life. Explain these benefits of exams to your children. Then ask your children what kind of life they like to live? Answer will invariably be a “rich lifestyle!” Now connect exams with rich lifestyle. Tell them that by giving and passing exams, they can get more opportunities for getting admission into higher studies and establishing good career. Then exams will have a chance of being ‘friendly-things’ in your children’s mind! They will stop hating exams.
4. Different exams have different importance
Exams are important. Yes. But different exams have different degree of importance. Preschool or nursery exams are not High School Board Exam. At this young age, children should not be made to spend too much time on studies. In the same way, school exams are not college exams. Don’t push your children too much towards studies or they will rebel against it. And develop hatred towards studying.
5. Let your children know the Difference Between Right And Wrong
Prohibit your children from doing things that are harmful to them and others. This will keep your children out of trouble.
Instill good values in them. These will help children to resist negative influence of other people, and bad temptations too. Be their role model. As children learn more from what their parents do and less from what their parents ‘tell.’
6. Control Your Ambition
It is natural for you to want your children to succeed. But avoid over-ambition. Rohan was a brilliant Student. His parents had lot of expectation from him. They had one goal—that he should come 1st merit in High School Board Exam. Rohan also studied hard. But somewhere along the line, the pressure became too much for him. He began to fear whether he would really manage to come first. One day, his family found him unconscious in his room. He had tried to commit suicide. Timely medical help saved his life. Don’t expect too much from your children. Avoid running after, “My child should come first rank every year.” Encourage your children to study well, but let them set their own goals. It is good idea to keep this fact in mind—we can only provide best guidance, best education facilities, best training to our children. But how much they really learn, how much advantage they really take, is up to them. It is up to the level of interest they develop towards studying.
7. Dealing With Failure Most children fail in studies because of one or all of these:
• Lack of motivation—not knowing benefits of education
• Lack of brain-friendly learning methods
• Due to some unsolved problems—hearing, eyesight, etc. So help your children to get rid of these problems.
Never scold or criticize when your children bring poor report card to home. First help them to come out of the stressful thinking they are already experiencing—teacher’s accusing gaze, classmates’ degrading comments, fear of your scolding—all these things are already playing havoc in the young minds of your children.
You can say, “I know you’re not happy with the result, but smile, you can do much better than this.” It is time to give a big hug! Always remember, at this moment your children are alone in their pain, with no supporters.
No one likes to fail. But sometimes, things go terribly wrong, no matter how much we try. This is what happened with Mary and Joe.
Mary wanted to be an Engineer, but failed to clear the Entrance exam for it. She did not get admission in any of the engineering colleges. It was a blow to her dreams. Her parents were angry and sad.
Joe was a merit student and dreamt of becoming a doctor. Everyone was sure he would be among the top rankers in the 12th Board Exam. But he suffered from a serious accident just weeks before the exam and could not even attend the exam. He lost one year.
These two students failed to fulfill their dreams.
But failure is failure, only if we stop trying. Only if we give up. Where as, if we keep moving forward, failure loses its effect.
There are thousands of ways to achieve success. If one way doesn’t work, search for another way and go for it. Nobody can fail all the time. This is what the above two students did.
After few days of depression, Mary chose another career, that of law. And today she has a successful practicing lawyer, earning wealth and fame.
After recovering from the accident, Joe gave the exam and somehow managed to pass it. He selected commerce stream for graduation and later topped the Chartered Accountant exam and got a job in good company.
Now, would you call these two individuals as failures? Of course not.
They did not give up when they failed. They searched for alternative ways, started again and succeeded. Such people are not called Failures. They are called Fighters. Winners.
Teach your children to become fighters. Let your children set specific goals for themselves. Ask them to do their best to achieve it. If they fail, encourage them to start again with an alternative plan, with a new goal.
Then setback or failure will not defeat your children.
So support and love your children even if they fail . As results are not in their control. Encourage them to try harder next time.
As parents, we need to remember this fact: children need more love and support when they face setbacks. This helps them to recover fast and take sweet revenge on their failure!
Be a role model to your children
Children are strongly influenced by their parents’ behaviour and actions.
Our next-door neighbor is a very well mannered, polite lady. Her son has also picked up her polite manners.
One of our friends has thirst for acquiring knowledge and is interested in SelfProgramming methods. He often buys books and reads them during holidays and at weekends. His older daughter, aged 10, has picked up the habit of reading books too. Though his younger son has not yet shown any interest in opening the books, but he watches curiously as his father does self-programming exercises at home. Someday he too will be hooked!
Children rarely listen to what we say, but they are great copying machines. Hence
first you do what you expect your children to do. Then you will see greater improvement in them.
Let your children see you reading some good books (not magazines), making some light notes on the sides of the pages, solving through the day-to-day problems of life patiently, correcting the mistakes you make, etc. Then your children will copy you.
To help your children become successful, healthy and happy, you need to maximize your skill of positive parenting. After all, who can want the best for
your children, if not you?
How to Help Your Children In Studies
Children who do good in studies enjoy more advantages than others. Like— getting admission to best colleges easily and more career opportunities. Hence help your children maintain good academic record. Here are 10 ways to help your children excel in studies:
1. Give Them A Good Start
Young children are learning machines. They learn faster than adults. You can give your children, especially if they are below five years of age, a good start in education by using these simple techniques…
• Read aloud stories from books. This helps to develop reading and imagination skill in children.
• Explore things with them, like—toys, various objects at home, plants, flowers, etc. See, touch, turn around the objects in your hands along with your children. Ask questions and discuss the objects playfully. This helps your children to learn more about their surrounding world.
• Answer your children’s questions. If you don’t know the answer, then try to find it out together.
Above steps are useful in developing intelligence and learning skill in children. They work even for newborn babies.
2. Have a good library in your home
Atmosphere of reading, learning and parents’ habits strongly influence children’s behaviour. When parents take interest in reading, their children also develop interest in reading.
So build a library of good books in your home. Display books prominently in the
• Talk a lot with your children. This helps to develop language skill.
• Put on music for young children. Teach them to sing simple songs. Research is showing that music is not only good for overall health, but it is good for brainpower too! area where children see most. Why not have a beautiful showcase of books just near the TV?!
Start reading few pages if you are not doing it already, so that your children realize the value of reading.
4. Let them dance to their own Rhythm
Every child may not like to get up early in the morning or do homework right after returning from school. Some like to play first. Some like to study at night, some at morning. Then there are children who want complete silence during studying, while others don’t care if there is silence or not. Let your children study at a time when they feel comfortable. Let them study in a style they like—what matters is that they should complete their study work on time and learn the study material properly.
5. Replace Scolding with Selling Benefits!
Children get easily distracted by TV and games. Parents have to repeatedly remind them to sit and study.
Once a parent told us that his son did not study regularly, even when he scolded him repeatedly, “Study or you will fail.”
We asked him to use another trick. We told him to remind his son to study by saying, “Study well, you will live a rich life.” Soon his son scored 85% in exam, which was a big improvement over his past performance!
Scolding is not known to give good results. But we have witnessed miracle-like transformation of disinterested students into top performers, when they were made to realize that good performance in studies leads to rich life style. And poor performance leads to poor living.
No Child Wants to Live a Poor Life!
Use this secret to stimulate your children to study well, and to view less TV. Help them to realize the consequences of their present actions on their future.
Show your children living examples among your relatives or friends, who are living a better life due to better education, and poor life due to neglecting their studies.
Whenever you have to remind your children to study, do it in a positive way instead of shouting at them. For example, you can say:
• “If you finish your homework, you can face your teacher with a smile.”
• “Study well, you will enjoy successful life.”
• “Study more, you will realize your dreams.”
This kind of tactics help to remind your children to study without spoiling their mood or hurting their feelings. It works with even teenage children.
If your children are very young, you may need to use some additional tricks to get them to study. Because young children become easily distracted.
Ask them to bring their textbook and say, “Together we will see what’s in today’s lesson,” or “We will learn a new story today, let’s find out what happened to Duffy.” (Use name of some character in the lesson.) Try to arouse their curiosity. As far as possible, try to gently guide your children to study with encouragement, praise, or a reminder of the importance of studying better.
6. Don’t Do Negative Programming
• “You are so lazy, you don’t do your homework.”
• “You are dull, you don’t remember anything.”
• “Study, or I will shut you up in your room.”
If you think this kind of remark will make your children reach eagerly for their books, then forget it. More probably, they will be hurt and angry. Even if they do reach for their books, they will not be reading it happily.
What’s more damaging is that, if children are frequently scolded, threatened, or worse, beaten to do their studies, then they begin to associate studies with hurt, fear, anger, and pain.
That’s why many children find excuses to avoid studying when they grow up.
7. Help Your Children to Use Better Study Methods To Learn Fast and Score High
Success in studies depends very much on mental attitude and use of smart study
methods. Our experience shows that even a failure or average student can improve his or her performance by using better study techniques. When we taught ‘11 Steps To Great Success In Exam,’ our main topic in workshops and classes, children reported increase in their academic performance almost instantly. Even Teachers reported significant improvements in students’ performance after we taught these 11 Steps in schools. (For detail story, see http://www.mindpowerguide.biz/howsm.htm)
Hence we can say without exaggeration that:
The secret to study success is to use Effective Study Methods
Here are some of the effective study methods which will help your children improve their academic performance...
To help your children study better, ask your children to do these things:
A. Set Target Help your children to decide EXACTLY what grade or marks they want to score in the next exam. Make sure, they set practical and realistic target. Then ask them to write it down in a notebook or diary.
B. Create Study Time-table Help your children decide for how many hours they
want to study each day and prepare their study timetable accordingly. Guide your children to create a practical study-plan which would help them divide their free time properly to accommodate these three things:
• Studies
• Rest
• Play
C. Study Plan
Guide your children to create a study-plan which will help them achieve their target. Ask your children to use these steps to create a Study Plan:
• Syllabus: Find out what syllabus or topics are going to be included in the exam.
• Important Topics: Find out what topics or lessons are important. Which topics carry more points or marks in exam. Your children can find this out by—(1) asking teachers, (2) by paying attention in class, especially, when teacher says “this is important.” Then make sure to highlight that topic, with a pen, in the textbook or special notebook.
• Kind of questions: Find out what kind of questions are asked in exams— objective type, fill in the blanks, match the following, short answers, answer in detail…etc.
D. Take Action Now, help your children to put their plans into action. Which means, they have to do these four things:
• Study regularly: Encourage your children to study regularly at home, using their study timetable. This habit of studying regularly helps to avoid many problems. Even studying for 1-2 hours everyday can work wonders.
• Revision: Make your children revise their lessons frequently. This need not be a long revision. Your children can do quick revision by just going through important points instead of reading the whole lesson word by word. Frequent and fast revision is the best remedy to solve the “I can’t remember it” problem.
• Practice solving questions: All exams involve writing. Your children can write answers easily and quickly in exam only if they have good practice of solving
• Best way to answer: Find out what is the best way to answer the type of questions which are asked in the exam. There are four ways to find this out:
1. ask teachers 2. ask senior students 3. ask smart students in class 4. through practice questions and writing fast answers. Hence encourage your children to practice writing answers by solving mock questions or model questions.
• Look after health: A healthy body and sound mind is important to perform better in studies. Healthy, nutritious diet combined with 7-8 hours of sleep and daily exercise for 30 minutes, is a good formula to keep your children fit and alert.
TMAbove methods are practical and easy to follow. They help your children to study properly, use their time wisely, and prepare better for exams. If you want to learn more powerful study techniques, then you can refer Success Mindware—the Complete Self-Development course for Students. In this, you will find:
‘11 Steps to great success in Exams,’ techniques to learn more in classroom, Integrated Study Method to study using whole brain , taking notes, concentrating 100%, Memory Tools, handling difficult subjects, time management, preparing for exam, writing better answers in exams, 1100 basic words to increase reading speed and word power, and more.
8. Encourage Your Children To Be Curious Answer your children’s questions. If you don’t know the answer, tell them, “Let’s search for it together.” And search for it in books at home. Or bring books from library. Or look it up on internet. Such actions will make your children realize the value of knowledge, expose them to methods of searching for information. And also make them happy that you care enough to answer their questions.
9. Connect Learning With Day-to-Day Life I had once gone to picnic with a group. In our group there were one couple with two young boys.
As we were traveling on the road, the father pointed out, “Look, that is the area where mining is done. You have a chapter on it in your science textbook, isn’t it?” His two boys looked out of the window excitedly and began rattling off, “Yes, we have studied it. The name of this mining area is…” By pointing out the mines, the father had brought the topic out from the textbook into real life, thus making it more interesting for his children. Indirectly he made his children realize that what they study in books have value in real life. Whenever possible, link what your children study with every day life. Show it to them. Find ways to use the information in daily life. If they learn about plants, ask them to study the plants in the garden. If they learn about animals, take them to zoo. Pay visit to museums and science exhibitions. Now this may not be always possible. But do this whenever you can. Try to make learning interesting. Give them additional, practically useful training. Like, Training for...
• using their mind power more efficiently
• using better study techniques
• learning skills essential for career development
• sharpening creativity
• managing stress
• developing good personality, etc. Such training helps to build positive mental attitude, winning qualities, success skills, and inner confidence. This in turn translates to—success, peace, satisfaction and good life.
10. Give Them The Edge Thousands of students pass out of college every year. How can your children stand out from this mass of degree holders? How can they survive and succeed in this age of cut-throat competition?
1. Give Them A Good Start
Young children are learning machines. They learn faster than adults. You can give your children, especially if they are below five years of age, a good start in education by using these simple techniques…
• Read aloud stories from books. This helps to develop reading and imagination skill in children.
• Explore things with them, like—toys, various objects at home, plants, flowers, etc. See, touch, turn around the objects in your hands along with your children. Ask questions and discuss the objects playfully. This helps your children to learn more about their surrounding world.
• Answer your children’s questions. If you don’t know the answer, then try to find it out together.
Above steps are useful in developing intelligence and learning skill in children. They work even for newborn babies.
2. Have a good library in your home
Atmosphere of reading, learning and parents’ habits strongly influence children’s behaviour. When parents take interest in reading, their children also develop interest in reading.
So build a library of good books in your home. Display books prominently in the
• Talk a lot with your children. This helps to develop language skill.
• Put on music for young children. Teach them to sing simple songs. Research is showing that music is not only good for overall health, but it is good for brainpower too! area where children see most. Why not have a beautiful showcase of books just near the TV?!
Start reading few pages if you are not doing it already, so that your children realize the value of reading.
4. Let them dance to their own Rhythm
Every child may not like to get up early in the morning or do homework right after returning from school. Some like to play first. Some like to study at night, some at morning. Then there are children who want complete silence during studying, while others don’t care if there is silence or not. Let your children study at a time when they feel comfortable. Let them study in a style they like—what matters is that they should complete their study work on time and learn the study material properly.
5. Replace Scolding with Selling Benefits!
Children get easily distracted by TV and games. Parents have to repeatedly remind them to sit and study.
Once a parent told us that his son did not study regularly, even when he scolded him repeatedly, “Study or you will fail.”
We asked him to use another trick. We told him to remind his son to study by saying, “Study well, you will live a rich life.” Soon his son scored 85% in exam, which was a big improvement over his past performance!
Scolding is not known to give good results. But we have witnessed miracle-like transformation of disinterested students into top performers, when they were made to realize that good performance in studies leads to rich life style. And poor performance leads to poor living.
No Child Wants to Live a Poor Life!
Use this secret to stimulate your children to study well, and to view less TV. Help them to realize the consequences of their present actions on their future.
Show your children living examples among your relatives or friends, who are living a better life due to better education, and poor life due to neglecting their studies.
Whenever you have to remind your children to study, do it in a positive way instead of shouting at them. For example, you can say:
• “If you finish your homework, you can face your teacher with a smile.”
• “Study well, you will enjoy successful life.”
• “Study more, you will realize your dreams.”
This kind of tactics help to remind your children to study without spoiling their mood or hurting their feelings. It works with even teenage children.
If your children are very young, you may need to use some additional tricks to get them to study. Because young children become easily distracted.
Ask them to bring their textbook and say, “Together we will see what’s in today’s lesson,” or “We will learn a new story today, let’s find out what happened to Duffy.” (Use name of some character in the lesson.) Try to arouse their curiosity. As far as possible, try to gently guide your children to study with encouragement, praise, or a reminder of the importance of studying better.
6. Don’t Do Negative Programming
• “You are so lazy, you don’t do your homework.”
• “You are dull, you don’t remember anything.”
• “Study, or I will shut you up in your room.”
If you think this kind of remark will make your children reach eagerly for their books, then forget it. More probably, they will be hurt and angry. Even if they do reach for their books, they will not be reading it happily.
What’s more damaging is that, if children are frequently scolded, threatened, or worse, beaten to do their studies, then they begin to associate studies with hurt, fear, anger, and pain.
That’s why many children find excuses to avoid studying when they grow up.
7. Help Your Children to Use Better Study Methods To Learn Fast and Score High
Success in studies depends very much on mental attitude and use of smart study
methods. Our experience shows that even a failure or average student can improve his or her performance by using better study techniques. When we taught ‘11 Steps To Great Success In Exam,’ our main topic in workshops and classes, children reported increase in their academic performance almost instantly. Even Teachers reported significant improvements in students’ performance after we taught these 11 Steps in schools. (For detail story, see http://www.mindpowerguide.biz/howsm.htm)
Hence we can say without exaggeration that:
The secret to study success is to use Effective Study Methods
Here are some of the effective study methods which will help your children improve their academic performance...
To help your children study better, ask your children to do these things:
A. Set Target Help your children to decide EXACTLY what grade or marks they want to score in the next exam. Make sure, they set practical and realistic target. Then ask them to write it down in a notebook or diary.
B. Create Study Time-table Help your children decide for how many hours they
want to study each day and prepare their study timetable accordingly. Guide your children to create a practical study-plan which would help them divide their free time properly to accommodate these three things:
• Studies
• Rest
• Play
C. Study Plan
Guide your children to create a study-plan which will help them achieve their target. Ask your children to use these steps to create a Study Plan:
• Syllabus: Find out what syllabus or topics are going to be included in the exam.
• Important Topics: Find out what topics or lessons are important. Which topics carry more points or marks in exam. Your children can find this out by—(1) asking teachers, (2) by paying attention in class, especially, when teacher says “this is important.” Then make sure to highlight that topic, with a pen, in the textbook or special notebook.
• Kind of questions: Find out what kind of questions are asked in exams— objective type, fill in the blanks, match the following, short answers, answer in detail…etc.
D. Take Action Now, help your children to put their plans into action. Which means, they have to do these four things:
• Study regularly: Encourage your children to study regularly at home, using their study timetable. This habit of studying regularly helps to avoid many problems. Even studying for 1-2 hours everyday can work wonders.
• Revision: Make your children revise their lessons frequently. This need not be a long revision. Your children can do quick revision by just going through important points instead of reading the whole lesson word by word. Frequent and fast revision is the best remedy to solve the “I can’t remember it” problem.
• Practice solving questions: All exams involve writing. Your children can write answers easily and quickly in exam only if they have good practice of solving
• Best way to answer: Find out what is the best way to answer the type of questions which are asked in the exam. There are four ways to find this out:
1. ask teachers 2. ask senior students 3. ask smart students in class 4. through practice questions and writing fast answers. Hence encourage your children to practice writing answers by solving mock questions or model questions.
• Look after health: A healthy body and sound mind is important to perform better in studies. Healthy, nutritious diet combined with 7-8 hours of sleep and daily exercise for 30 minutes, is a good formula to keep your children fit and alert.
TMAbove methods are practical and easy to follow. They help your children to study properly, use their time wisely, and prepare better for exams. If you want to learn more powerful study techniques, then you can refer Success Mindware—the Complete Self-Development course for Students. In this, you will find:
‘11 Steps to great success in Exams,’ techniques to learn more in classroom, Integrated Study Method to study using whole brain , taking notes, concentrating 100%, Memory Tools, handling difficult subjects, time management, preparing for exam, writing better answers in exams, 1100 basic words to increase reading speed and word power, and more.
8. Encourage Your Children To Be Curious Answer your children’s questions. If you don’t know the answer, tell them, “Let’s search for it together.” And search for it in books at home. Or bring books from library. Or look it up on internet. Such actions will make your children realize the value of knowledge, expose them to methods of searching for information. And also make them happy that you care enough to answer their questions.
9. Connect Learning With Day-to-Day Life I had once gone to picnic with a group. In our group there were one couple with two young boys.
As we were traveling on the road, the father pointed out, “Look, that is the area where mining is done. You have a chapter on it in your science textbook, isn’t it?” His two boys looked out of the window excitedly and began rattling off, “Yes, we have studied it. The name of this mining area is…” By pointing out the mines, the father had brought the topic out from the textbook into real life, thus making it more interesting for his children. Indirectly he made his children realize that what they study in books have value in real life. Whenever possible, link what your children study with every day life. Show it to them. Find ways to use the information in daily life. If they learn about plants, ask them to study the plants in the garden. If they learn about animals, take them to zoo. Pay visit to museums and science exhibitions. Now this may not be always possible. But do this whenever you can. Try to make learning interesting. Give them additional, practically useful training. Like, Training for...
• using their mind power more efficiently
• using better study techniques
• learning skills essential for career development
• sharpening creativity
• managing stress
• developing good personality, etc. Such training helps to build positive mental attitude, winning qualities, success skills, and inner confidence. This in turn translates to—success, peace, satisfaction and good life.
10. Give Them The Edge Thousands of students pass out of college every year. How can your children stand out from this mass of degree holders? How can they survive and succeed in this age of cut-throat competition?
Turn Mistakes of Your Children Into Opportunities for Improvement
When your children make mistakes, focus on improvement. Not on their mistakes or faults.For example, if your children come home with poor report card, instead of shouting how dull they are, help them to analyze where they lost their marks or points. Encourage and guide them to study that subject more until their score improves. Similarly if they don’t do any work properly, focus on teaching them the correct techniques of doing that work, instead of berating how stupid they are.
Can you imagine how children feel when their parents do this? It is plainly embarrassing, even humiliating. Frankly it does nothing to improve children’s performance. It only lowers their confidence, apart from making them angry at you.
Hence it is a good idea to keep a check on what you say when you speak about your children with others.
If you really want to talk about your children with neighbors or other people, then talk about their good qualities. Discuss their good performance, especially when your children are present on the scene. Or if your daughter gets up late in the morning but keeps her room clean, then comment on her neat and tidy habit. For example, if your son brings home poor math report but has got ‘good’ remark on his English essay, then talk only about English. Say, “My son is good in English. He got good remarks for his essay.”
If your daughter does not study regularly, but has good memory, then talk about her good memory only.
Can you imagine how children feel when their parents do this? It is plainly embarrassing, even humiliating. Frankly it does nothing to improve children’s performance. It only lowers their confidence, apart from making them angry at you.
Hence it is a good idea to keep a check on what you say when you speak about your children with others.
If you really want to talk about your children with neighbors or other people, then talk about their good qualities. Discuss their good performance, especially when your children are present on the scene. Or if your daughter gets up late in the morning but keeps her room clean, then comment on her neat and tidy habit. For example, if your son brings home poor math report but has got ‘good’ remark on his English essay, then talk only about English. Say, “My son is good in English. He got good remarks for his essay.”
If your daughter does not study regularly, but has good memory, then talk about her good memory only.
Make your Children RESPONSIBLE for their actions and life
Encourage your children to do some household work depending on their age like— cleaning their room, hanging their clothes neatly, setting tables, watering plants, making their own beds, etc. If your children are older, you can ask them to help in cooking and washing dishes. Praise their effort, ignore their faults! Even young children can be assigned the task to keep their toys back in their place. Doing work around the house gives children a sense of responsibility, teaches the habit of finishing the work they start, and helps them to develop self-esteem. Be kind to them! Smile at them more frequently. Laugh together by making routine things funny. Encourage your children to help others whenever possible, like their classmates and friends. Ask them to share things with their siblings. Helping others instills good human values and increases the feeling of self-worth in children. The fastest way to teach your children these qualities is to practice them yourself with other people— especially in front of your children, and also with your children.
How to Build Your Children’s Self-confidence
Self-confidence is the ultimate power. It gives courage to ‘see off’ difficult times and the strength to achieve success. Everyone needs it, including your children. Help your children develop this power. Here are 7 ways to build your children’s self-confidence. 1. Praise Their Good Work and Achievements
START TODAY, find something to praise your children regularly. Like...
“My, you learn so fast.”
“Your handwriting is good.”
“You finished homework on time, great!” “You are good at spelling.”
“You remember so well. Your memory is good.”
“You read so clearly.”
“You keep things so neatly.” “You cultivate good friends.” “Thanks for help.”
Notice their every little and big good work and praise them for their efforts, even if there is no result. So when they remember spellings, praise. When they answer questions, praise. This is what we call ‘positive programming.’ Your encouraging words program your children to do more and more good things, without shouting. And automatically! We humans have very big appetite for praise. No indigestion, ever! Think about it, how much you love your spouse’s praise for your achievements? You may also be thirsty for it. Want more? Then praise your spouse for her or his good work, irrespective of whether it is big or small.
The more you give the more you get—in life, business and in any human transactions. And when parents love and respect each other children feel safe, better, and enthusiastic. However, there is one thing that you should remember. When you are praising your children (or anyone else) make sure that you do it at the right time. The right time to praise is immediately after your children have done some good work or have behaved properly. If you find it difficult to praise all the time, then look into your children’s eyes and smile happily when they do their work right. This will convey the message. Children who get enough love feel good about themselves, develop more selfconfidence, and achieve more success in life. But remember, don’t praise without reason. Don’t exaggerate too much. Otherwise your children will grow up expecting praises for things which they haven’t done. What if the good things are rare? Create situations. For example, ask your children
to help you in some work, which they can do, and then praise for their help.
START TODAY, find something to praise your children regularly. Like...
“My, you learn so fast.”
“Your handwriting is good.”
“You finished homework on time, great!” “You are good at spelling.”
“You remember so well. Your memory is good.”
“You read so clearly.”
“You keep things so neatly.” “You cultivate good friends.” “Thanks for help.”
Notice their every little and big good work and praise them for their efforts, even if there is no result. So when they remember spellings, praise. When they answer questions, praise. This is what we call ‘positive programming.’ Your encouraging words program your children to do more and more good things, without shouting. And automatically! We humans have very big appetite for praise. No indigestion, ever! Think about it, how much you love your spouse’s praise for your achievements? You may also be thirsty for it. Want more? Then praise your spouse for her or his good work, irrespective of whether it is big or small.
The more you give the more you get—in life, business and in any human transactions. And when parents love and respect each other children feel safe, better, and enthusiastic. However, there is one thing that you should remember. When you are praising your children (or anyone else) make sure that you do it at the right time. The right time to praise is immediately after your children have done some good work or have behaved properly. If you find it difficult to praise all the time, then look into your children’s eyes and smile happily when they do their work right. This will convey the message. Children who get enough love feel good about themselves, develop more selfconfidence, and achieve more success in life. But remember, don’t praise without reason. Don’t exaggerate too much. Otherwise your children will grow up expecting praises for things which they haven’t done. What if the good things are rare? Create situations. For example, ask your children
to help you in some work, which they can do, and then praise for their help.
Secret to Raising Successful Children
• Children treated with heavy punishment and insult became cruel warmongers and even dreaded criminals.
• Children who did not receive enough love became selfish and insensitive to others’ needs and happiness.
• Children who did not receive enough praise for their good deeds but received lot of criticism for their faults could not develop enough confidence to set and achieve meaningful goals—and were condemned to live an ordinary life filled with many problems.
Don’t worry, if you are facing any problem with your kids. Because it is not your fault . It is a system failure. Dear friend, think of all the crimes, tragedies, wars, we humans have suffered so far. Then ask why these happened? You will find that the single most important reason behind these tragedies is “Parenting Failure.” For example..You can find evidence for such things even with casual enquiry into lives of unhappy people you know.
Now think of all the good things, inventions, we humans have achieved so far. Again ask, “What is one important factor that worked behind these marvelous things?” Answer…? It is “Positive Parenting.”
Want proof? Just have a peep into lives of friends who are happy and nice people. You will find that most of them experienced happy and positive parenting, at least by one parent, mother or father.
The most important things we need to know to lead a happy and successful life are not taught in formal education! Big Education Blunder?!
Here are some of the important tasks that should be taught in schools but are
simply excluded in formal education:
• How to raise kids that behave like angels and work like geniuses We do these most important things on trial and error basis. And most of us end up with lot of errors—failures, drop-outs, suicide, drug-addicts, unhappy marriages, divorce, sibling rivalry, crime, murder and all other unwanted experiences.
Smile Please :)
Because now you can protect your children from the above sad experiences. You can make them confident human beings, better students, successful achievers and give them strength to fight against failures. This ebook makes it easy for you to accomplish one of the most important task of your life—parenting. It offers you valuable ideas, suggestions and methods to become a Positive and Successful Parent. This is not all. This ebook also contains links to more Free, Life-Changing information, plus an
introduction to a Powerful system that helps your children become Extraordinary Achievers in life. After all, it is a dream of every parent to see their children enjoying successful, happy and peaceful life.
But dreams remain dreams if we don’t take right actions to make them real. Hence start taking actions to turn your dreams into reality. Begin by following these two top Positive Parenting Rules. They are master remedies for all parenting problems
• Children who did not receive enough love became selfish and insensitive to others’ needs and happiness.
• Children who did not receive enough praise for their good deeds but received lot of criticism for their faults could not develop enough confidence to set and achieve meaningful goals—and were condemned to live an ordinary life filled with many problems.
Don’t worry, if you are facing any problem with your kids. Because it is not your fault . It is a system failure. Dear friend, think of all the crimes, tragedies, wars, we humans have suffered so far. Then ask why these happened? You will find that the single most important reason behind these tragedies is “Parenting Failure.” For example..You can find evidence for such things even with casual enquiry into lives of unhappy people you know.
Now think of all the good things, inventions, we humans have achieved so far. Again ask, “What is one important factor that worked behind these marvelous things?” Answer…? It is “Positive Parenting.”
Want proof? Just have a peep into lives of friends who are happy and nice people. You will find that most of them experienced happy and positive parenting, at least by one parent, mother or father.
The most important things we need to know to lead a happy and successful life are not taught in formal education! Big Education Blunder?!
Here are some of the important tasks that should be taught in schools but are
simply excluded in formal education:
• How to raise kids that behave like angels and work like geniuses We do these most important things on trial and error basis. And most of us end up with lot of errors—failures, drop-outs, suicide, drug-addicts, unhappy marriages, divorce, sibling rivalry, crime, murder and all other unwanted experiences.
Smile Please :)
Because now you can protect your children from the above sad experiences. You can make them confident human beings, better students, successful achievers and give them strength to fight against failures. This ebook makes it easy for you to accomplish one of the most important task of your life—parenting. It offers you valuable ideas, suggestions and methods to become a Positive and Successful Parent. This is not all. This ebook also contains links to more Free, Life-Changing information, plus an
introduction to a Powerful system that helps your children become Extraordinary Achievers in life. After all, it is a dream of every parent to see their children enjoying successful, happy and peaceful life.
But dreams remain dreams if we don’t take right actions to make them real. Hence start taking actions to turn your dreams into reality. Begin by following these two top Positive Parenting Rules. They are master remedies for all parenting problems
Setting the Guidelines For Children
Setting good, reasonable guildelines with your children will go a long way to keeping your children safe. Here are some points to remember:
1) Browse the Internet with your children. Get to know what they do online, where they visit, who their online friends are. Perhaps, have a list of friends they may be allowed to speak with regularly; all others they must have your approval before they can speak with them on a regular basis. Perhaps, know their email passwords and account information to Yahoo, Hotmail and others.
2) Make a hard rule they may never be allowed face-to-face meetings with anyone they meet online. Many predators pose as children or as “good” people and then slowly gain the trust of children. If they insist then make a point that you are to accompany these meetings and the meeting will be in a public place.
3) Get to know their “online” friends much like you would wish to meet their real world friends. Your friends have a significant impact on your lives and how much more so this holds true with your children’s friendships.
4) Inform them never give out personals, pertinent information such as home address, phone numbers, what school they attend, what team they play on, when the parents are at work, when they are alone, credit card information, etc. This includes giving out any personal information with online promotions and contests, “free” offers and popular social network websites such as www.myspace.com or www.friendster.com.
5) If they receive any email or encounter any harassing or bullying messages tell them to never respond to them and encourage your children to speak with you. Get them to talk to you when they encounter anything that makes them feel uncomfortable. If you receive any harassing or sexual messages forward them to your ISP. Never click on the links in the email messages that are unsolicited. The links which state “click this link to unsubscribe” from unsolicited emails are simply a way to notify the spammer that you have read the email and, thus, will be sending your more spam. If the spam contains any child pornography report this to NCMEC CyberTipline at 1800-8435678 or visit www.cybertipline.com.
6) Use good Internet Security and parental control software. Do not rely on these as a 100% safeguard measure. Use them as tools to assist you in keeping your children safer.
The Internet can be a scary unknown world with many hazards but it doesn’t have to be this way. I’m not here to scare you into thinking the Internet is a big, bad world. I’m here to give you a dose of reality. Take control and guide your children to practical and safe online activities. Be involved with their online activities as you would in their schoolwork and in their outdoor, extracurricular activities. Use the computer as one more way to develop and strengthen your relationship with your children. Gain their trust and make them understand that you are doing these things because you love and care about them. Happy Internet surfing!
1) Browse the Internet with your children. Get to know what they do online, where they visit, who their online friends are. Perhaps, have a list of friends they may be allowed to speak with regularly; all others they must have your approval before they can speak with them on a regular basis. Perhaps, know their email passwords and account information to Yahoo, Hotmail and others.
2) Make a hard rule they may never be allowed face-to-face meetings with anyone they meet online. Many predators pose as children or as “good” people and then slowly gain the trust of children. If they insist then make a point that you are to accompany these meetings and the meeting will be in a public place.
3) Get to know their “online” friends much like you would wish to meet their real world friends. Your friends have a significant impact on your lives and how much more so this holds true with your children’s friendships.
4) Inform them never give out personals, pertinent information such as home address, phone numbers, what school they attend, what team they play on, when the parents are at work, when they are alone, credit card information, etc. This includes giving out any personal information with online promotions and contests, “free” offers and popular social network websites such as www.myspace.com or www.friendster.com.
5) If they receive any email or encounter any harassing or bullying messages tell them to never respond to them and encourage your children to speak with you. Get them to talk to you when they encounter anything that makes them feel uncomfortable. If you receive any harassing or sexual messages forward them to your ISP. Never click on the links in the email messages that are unsolicited. The links which state “click this link to unsubscribe” from unsolicited emails are simply a way to notify the spammer that you have read the email and, thus, will be sending your more spam. If the spam contains any child pornography report this to NCMEC CyberTipline at 1800-8435678 or visit www.cybertipline.com.
6) Use good Internet Security and parental control software. Do not rely on these as a 100% safeguard measure. Use them as tools to assist you in keeping your children safer.
The Internet can be a scary unknown world with many hazards but it doesn’t have to be this way. I’m not here to scare you into thinking the Internet is a big, bad world. I’m here to give you a dose of reality. Take control and guide your children to practical and safe online activities. Be involved with their online activities as you would in their schoolwork and in their outdoor, extracurricular activities. Use the computer as one more way to develop and strengthen your relationship with your children. Gain their trust and make them understand that you are doing these things because you love and care about them. Happy Internet surfing!
Tips to Internet Security for Parents
So what are some tips and ideas which you can implement easily to safeguard your children? Here are some ideas:
1) Talk to your children on this “tough” topic. The same precautionary rules apply for your children should be instituted as in the offline world. Make a point of finding out who their friends are online. While your children do need some privacy, speak with them and discuss why you are concerned and the issues they may encounter in the online world. Please note how you respond to them and how you approach them will determine whether they will seek for your guidance when they encounter any problems online and, as well, determine how they will deal with any future problems.
Moreover, find support by discussing these issues with trusted teachers, school counselors and other counselors, perhaps, in your church. There are some resources in your local library that you may use or websites such as www.safekids.com or www.cybertiponline.com, a site developed by the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children. The NCMEC allows you to submit a report to notify them of any indecent, obscene material sent to your children or anyone’s children or if you become aware of any sites that are exploiting children.
2) Move the computer out of the children’s bedroom to a more public area of the home. The same goes with the television since we are on the topic of your children’s safety and regulating what is exposed to them.
3) Use spam filters to filter unsolicited email which are most often sex-related or drug-related material. You may use spam filters by filtering out bad words or to allow only emails from trusted people in your list. The other option is to sign up an email account for your children and monitor what is received before they read it. Of course, if your children are older in their teenage years this may not be feasible and you may find much resistance to this idea. In this case, use spam filters. Many good programs such as Norton Internet Security 2006, Zone Alarm Internet Security and McAfee Internet Security include the spam filter. If you do not have a good Internet Security program then you definitely need one immediately. The second option to the Internet Security package is to download AVG Antivirus, a good free option; however, you will still need a good anti-spyware program such as WebSpysweeper, SpyDoctor or Ad-Aware SE Professional. Ad-Aware has a free version but I always recommend purchasing the professional version. The second option as well does not include a spam filter.
4) Do not use the computer and Internet as a substitute of a good babysitter. The Internet as you well know by now are full of dangers, hazards and a place where your children can possibly harm themselves. Thus, it’s important to disallow your children from using the Internet and computer without any supervision just as you wouldn’t allow your children to go out with anyone and anywhere in the real world.
5) Use good parental control software. There are many parental control software programs out there such as CyberPatrol, CyberSitter, SafeEyes and IamBigBrother. Some features to look for in a good Parental Control Software:
i. Time limits of using computer. This feature will limit the times your children will be able to use the Internet.ii. Filter category selection will filter certain sites which will be categorized such as pornography, violence, etc. iii. Restrict chat usage via instant messengers which could be a potential portal for viruses and spyware.iv. Filter chat conversations disallowing certain words and numbers from being sent. This safeguards your children from sending inappropriate information such as addresses, phone numbers, credit card numbers while chatting.v. Restrict file-sharing by peer-to-peer software which again is a potential portal for viruses and spyware.vi. Restrict access to internet-based applications or other applications such as online games when they are supposed to be doing their homework.vii. Activity logging on computer. Records activity of the computer to know precisely what your children are doing. viii. Remote access to review logs from another internetconnected computer.ix. Block search results from search engines like Google which contain objectionable words.
The Risks to Your Children
Some risks that your children may encounter are:
1) They have access to information to violent-oriented websites such as how to construct bombs or websites dedicated to hatred and intolerance. They can browse and by chance come across pornographic sites or adult-oriented chat rooms where pedophiles may be lurking.
2) Excessive use of the Internet can lead to social withdrawal, declining grades, missing school classes, lethargy and belligerence and opposition to you as a parent and other authorities.
3) They may give away too much information online in the chat rooms or via instant messaging and disclose where they live, what school they go to, what time you are at work and, consequently, endangering their lives and other family members.
4) Your children may encounter harassment and bullying online. This could be via email, chat rooms, instant messaging and cell phones. Most often bullying is caused from other youngsters.
5) Many children use peer-to-peer software to download free music, games and other files. However, these files are from other unknown users from around the world. Some of these users use this medium to transmit viruses and spyware that could jeopardize the security system of the computer. If this is a shared computer in the household which often times it is then it should be a concern to your privacy as well.
6) Sometimes, financial information is given away such as the parent’s credit information.
Five Steps You Need to Take for Your Children’s Safety to Put Your Mind at Ease
Protecting your children has been a top priority since the day they were born. Telling your children “Don’t talk to strangers” or “Don’t accept that lollipop” applies well to the real world but it seems a lot more difficult when that rule is applied to the online world of computers and the Internet. So what do you, as a parent, do and what do you tell your children? How do you protect your child or children from the online predators of today and other dangers such as pornography and other questionable material you do not wish your children to be reading or viewing? The dangers to children using the Internet have only recently come to the forefront of concerns. One of five children has been sexually solicited online; one of four children has been sent pictures of naked people; the first death of a child linked directly to an online predator was May 21, 2002. These numbers can be a shock to some. So is it recommended to stop children from using the Internet and the computer altogether? Well, certainly that is one way but there are many benefits to your child using the computer and the Internet.
Benefits of the Internet:
Thus, I will briefly summarize the benefits of Internet use by your children.
1) It allows them to find rich, cultural and educational information readily. Sites like www.howstuffworks, www.cnn.com, www.discovery.com, www.pbs.org are great sites for both up-to-date news and educational content. Other subjects can include sports, weather, shopping, health, information on local schools and governments and what is happening around the world.
2) One of the greatest benefits your children will see is they can now communicate with their friends in every possible way and interact with them. Technologically, they will be able to “talk” with their peers in every conceivable way whether it is via email, instant messaging via their cell or computer or share pictures and ideas from social network sites such as www.myspace.com. It gives them a feeling of belonging and helps them form who they are. Of course, there can be extremes to these cases and you will, consequently, need to monitor their usage.
3) Your children will be able to keep not only in touch with their friends online locally but they can communicate with relatives half-way around the world. They can keep in touch with their grandparents, cousins or friends from overseas and simultaneously talk and view with them live. Things like this were not possible even ten years ago.
4) Of course, children love to play their favorite computer game. This doesn’t necessarily the extreme, violent games. The benefit to your children could be the educational computer games. Many games are interactive and have great learning elements to them.
5) Access to up-to-date news and information, what is happening in the world and what events that are going on locally are important for your children’s development and learning. It gets them involved in the world and the Internet may answer many questions they have.
6) They will develop essential IT and other job-related skills.
7) They can collaborate on school projects, make new friends online as penpals, learn good netiquette rules and so much more.
So what are some of the risks to your children when they are online and you are away at work or in the other room watching television or cooking?
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